Start with the End in Mind

Lets be succesfull, set clear goals with a well formed outcome and you will be. In this blog i will run you through SYDER. SYDER is an NLP model developed by Andy Smith an expert in the field of NLP. Before you set your goal, you must have the end in mind and it must be clear to you. There is only one defined way to tell the future and that is to create it. SYDER is simple yet effective way of achieving excellence.

S - Stated Positively

This is fundamental to the goal structure and attainability. Positive goals stimulate the brain stronger than negative goals so remember to always set the goal in the positive sense. That is, what do you want, rather than what you do not want.

Y -You own it

Remember that this is your goal, it is about what you can do to achieve your goal. You can think of a few questions to ask yourself.
"What do you need to do to achieve this?"
"What can you do to influence this outcome?"

D - Defined in sensory specific terms

• "When specifically do you want to achieve this by?"
• "Put yourself in the position of having the goal. What do you see/hear/feel when you have it?". Make sure your goal is rich, vivid and compelling.

E - Ecology (Effects on every aspect of your life)

This sections is for the risk assessment of how the goal will impact on every area of your life

"What will happen when you have it?"
"What won't happen?"
"Are there any downsides to achieving it?"
      
"How would having this outcome affect every area of your life?"
"Who else would be affected by you having this outcome?"
"How would you having this outcome affect the planet?"

      
Congruence Check

"How do you feel about the goal?"

"Do you want it 100%?"

"Does your energy increase when you think about it?" if not, adjust the goal until you feel enthusiastic about it.

R - Resources and Route

What resources do you have at your disposal to help you reach your goal? What additional resources do you need?

Its much easier to work out how to achieve your goal if you have already got there. You can put yourself in the position of having achieved the goal and what had to be done immediately before to allow your goal to happen, and work your way back from there.

An example of a well formed outcome.

It is 11 am on the 20th of April 2015 and i am sitting in the kitchen having a cup of tea reading over my bank statements, credit card bills and store cards. I have and overdraft facility of £500 available, 2 credit cards with combined limit of £10,000 and a store card with a £2,000 limit. I have cleared the overdraft and credit cards and no longer owe any money on them. I then pick up to phone to clear off my store card bill, a girl answers the phone and sounds extremely pleasant and upbeat and asks me why i am calling. I explain that i am calling to pay off the balance on the card, currently sitting at £300. She asks "Are you looking to pay the full balance?" which in reply to her i answer "Yes". I am extremely proud that i have paid of this card in full and i am delighted that i have just made the final payment to my debt, i no longer owe anyone any money.

I now have an extra £300 to spare each month which i can spend on things that i enjoy. I am looking out of the window and the sun is beating down. I go outside and immediately smell the scent of the fresh flowers as i look back to two years ago when i wrote this goal as i remember the first steps that i took to paying off my first debt.

As i stand here now i have a real sense of achievement, a feeling of excitement because i have achieved some of my potential. I am now debt free.

Next step is to set your goal. Write 1 goal for an area of your life - pick 1 one from my previous blog.

Thanks for taking time to read.

TF

Goal Setting with a Positive Outcome

To be succesfull in achieving anything you need to have a well formed outcome in place. "If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up somewhere else". Many people set goals for various things like running marathons, saving money for a property or even performance based at work, however not many set goals for their everyday life. Whatever it is you want to achieve, you must have a goal in place to help you achieve it. Goal setting is an extremely powerfully process and helps you map out your ideal future. By setting stretching but realistic goals you can push yourself and motivate yourself by turning this goal into a reality. In this article you will look at various types of goals stretching through all areas of your life. This is important to find the exact balance for you to live a fulfilled life. Many people have set financial goals and achieved but fail to achieve in other area's of their life. There are lots of lonely, unhappy rich people in the world. What good is all the money in the world if you are miserable  In my next blog we will also look at a few goal setting models one called SYDER, this is an NLP coaching model used for achieving excellence. The other is the more common model named as SMART, we will also look at how you can take a SMART goal and make it SMARTER.

• Financial Goals

What am i saving for? Why am i not saving? Where does all my money go? Are these questions you feel asking yourself? When are you planning your retirement, what kind of house you want to live in, what kind of car you want to drive, where you want to go for holiday, what do you have in place if the worst was to happen, do you want your kids to get a better education, do you want a second home? Depending on your financial position will give you different goals and aspirations here.

• Physical Appearance/Ability Goals 

Want to improve your physical appearance, do you want to get stronger, fitter, faster, what do you want to achieve, how long do you want to achieve this, do have a specific weight goal? These goals relate to your physical well being, setting these goals will help you lead a healthier life. If you have a specific weight goal, or improve your physical condition and health in some way, you will need to set these goals.

• Enjoyment Goals 

Set goals where it is something that you enjoy. Do you want to learn a new skill, Do you wish to play a musical instrument? These goals will be set for entertainment, learning new skills/abilities or for taking up new hobbies.

• Career Goals 

Where do you want to be in your career five years from now, ten years from? twenty? In what position you see yourself and what you will do to reach there, what kind of value addition you will do to your skills, both hard and soft, will fall under career goals.

• Self Development 

As long as you are learning new skills your body and mind will keep growing, as soon as you stop learning you become unfulfilled. Keep growing by setting goals to learn new skills, become more religious, help someone achieve their goals. If you are more spiritual you will enjoy better relationships, financial success better and a more fulfilling self image as you have stronger faith. Spiritual goals are an important purpose of all life and you should definitely set goals in this area of self development.

• Relationships & Family 

There will be no one more important to you in your life than your Relationships and Family. Have you lost touch with your best friend, or have created new connections with new people? What can you help out with your partner, children, parents, greater family, to strengthen the relationship you have with them? It is worth it to set goals in this area to have a fulfilled life.

• Social Goals 

You will find that your achievements can be judged on what you do for the society rather than on your personal achievements. You may feel that it is your duty to give back more than what you receive. Any goals that you set for this purpose are Social Goals.
Have a think about these different goal types and see if there is any that you can associate too. My next blog will help you set yourself a goal to achieve it. It will put you in the position of having achieved the goal. What had to be in place immediately before to allow your goal to happen? And what had to be in place before that? Continue all the way back to the very first step.

Thanks for reading and take care.

Thanks and Regard.

TF

Sculpt Your Dreams

Have you ever thought to yourself, life is good but I want more? I was feeling like this every day and being honest with myself I was doing nothing about it, it wasn't until I embraced nuero linguistic programming where it gave me the “get up and go” attitude I have now. Jim Rohn once said “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” This is a very powerful quote, if you take a step back and think about it, it makes complete sense. I started the course to give me a greater understanding of coaching and it was purely career based, I didn't realize the affect that it would have on my personal life also. It was only three months ago where I first heard of Jim Rohn and began my journey into the world of NLP, I was intrigued. I wanted to be in control of my own life and now I am, I am not waiting on opportunities to present themselves, I am making these opportunities in my career and personal life. I am now a successful development coach, helping and inspiring others to achieve their goals. The key to achieving your goal is to start. Enjoyed reading this? Want to find out how to achieve your goals? Check back in a few days to set a structured goal.

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